Aging Mother’s letter to her Daughter

I am going to share a letter which I read somewhere. Its really heart melting.

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 ​“My dear girl, the day you see I’m getting old, I ask you to please be patient, but most of all, try to understand what I’m going through.

If when we talk, I repeat the same thing a thousand times, don’t interrupt to say: “You said the same thing a minute ago”… Just listen, please. Try to remember the times when you were little and I would read the same story night after night until you would fall asleep.
When I don’t want to take a bath, don’t be mad and don’t embarrass me. Remember when I had to run after you making excuses and trying to get you to take a shower when you were just a girl?

When you see how slow I am when it comes to new technology, give me the time to learn and don’t look at me that way… remember, honey, I patiently taught you how to do many things like eating appropriately, getting dressed, combing your hair and dealing with life’s issues every day… the day you see I’m getting old, I ask you to please be patient, but most of all, try to understand what I’m going through.

If I occasionally lose track of what we’re talking about, give me the time to remember, and if I can’t, don’t be nervous, impatient or arrogant. Just know in your heart that the most important thing for me is to be with you.

And when my old, tired legs don’t let me move as quickly as before, give me your hand the same way that I offered mine to you when you first walked.

When those days come, don’t feel sad… just be with me, and understand me while I get to the end of my life with love.

I’ll cherish and thank you for the gift of time and joy we shared. With a big smile and the huge love I’ve always had for you, I just want to say, I love you… my darling daughter.”


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THE PREGNANT DEER

​Such a beautiful story and a story difficult to come by!!

In a forest, a pregnant deer is about to give birth. She finds a remote grass field near a strong-flowing river. This seems a safe place. Suddenly labour pains begin.

At the same moment, dark clouds gather around above and lightning starts a forest fire. She looks to her left  and sees a hunter with his bow extended pointing at her. To her right, she spots a hungry lion approaching her. What can the pregnant deer do? Remember she is in labour!!

What will happen?

Will the deer survive?

Will she give birth to a fawn?

Will the fawn survive?

Or will everything be burnt by the forest fire?

Will she perish to the hunters’ arrow? 

Will she die a horrible death at the hands of the hungry lion approaching her? 

She is constrained by the fire on the one side and the flowing river on the other and boxed in by her natural predators.

What does she do? 

She focuses on giving birth to a new life.

 The sequence of events that follows are:

 – lightning strikes and blinds the hunter.

 – he (the hunter) releases the arrow which zips past the deer and strikes the hungry lion.

 – it starts to rain heavily and the forest fire is slowly doused by the rain.

 – the deer gives birth to a healthy fawn.

Check the circumstances that took place above and ask yourself whether the deer had any influence in the chain of reactions that happened to her enemies right in front of her very eyes.

In our life too, there are moments of choice when we are confronted on αll sides with negative thoughts and possibilities. What we must not do is take our eyes off the ball. We must remain focused on the issue at hand.

Some thoughts are so powerful that they overcome us and overwhelm us. Maybe we can learn something from the deer.

The priority of the deer, in that given moment was simply to give birth to a baby.The rest was not in her hands and any action or reaction that changed her focus would have likely resulted in death or disaster.

*Ask yourself:*

*Where is my focus?*

*Where is my faith and hope?*

In the midst of any storm, do keep faith in the Creator always. He will never ever dissapoint you. NEVER.

Remember, He neither slumbers nor sleeps!! The strong person knows how to keep their life in order. Even with tears in their eyes, they still manage to say “I’m ok” with a smile.

Sin or A Gift

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Being a mother of a girl child is one of the biggest concern in this society. Yes, I am talking about these typical indian societies. These concerns begins with your pregnancy and go on increasing by the time as the birth of a girl child, her up bringing, her education,her wedding and after all these things continue with some taunts and demotivated thoughts throw out from your relatives and friends.

However, there are so many changes are made in our communities but yet some people have mis thoughts about a girl child. Still they makes a wry face on a girl’s birth and taunts ” its a baby girl; be prepared for her dowry”. 😏  So mean..

Some says “see she is a girl; you have no need to make her so special all the time”. Even they starts to calculate her basic necessary items and advice to retrenchment in her expenses.

As she growing up, people begins to compare her with her brother or other boy child in the family. Such as her outfits should be fully covered, don’t let her be like she wants to be, don’t talk loudly, don’t go outside, don’t talk to a boy and kind of unended restrictions.

By a fluke, someone in the family supporting her so this is called pamper distortion. People says dont pamper her so much who knows how she will be treated in her would be family (In law’s place).

Then they follows her up throughout the entire education. If she studies in a Co-ed they have issues again. If she refuse to do further studies they presumes something is wrong with her. 

In order to save these escapes, the girl got married and at her in law’s place if she made a little mistake, Her mother in law is now ready to taunt her. She directly blame her and says your parents has not taught you anything. Even her husband expect her to follow his mother’s instructions and if she deny everyone says she breaks the peace of the home. 

When she thought her children will understand her and value her then her expectations might be crumbled by the time. 

In short, being a mother of a girl child seems to make a sin. 

Daughters are the most precious gift from the god and he gives this only to them who are the most closest to him. So Love your daughters and convey this message to everyone..

I Love My Daughter.. ❤


Stay Happy.. Stay Blessed..

Take Care of I ,Me & Myself

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 Obviously, you are an excellent mom, an ideal wife, an acquiesce daughter in law, a wonderful daughter and a good sibling but are you good enough to yourself? Have you ever been realized about self esteem? Have you ever come to know, what do you like or dislike? Have you ever expect from yourself for your own dreams?

If you have all above mentioned qualities inside you, your answer must be a “NO”. See its fine that we are Indian women and we belong to a well cultured society but still we can take care of our self esteems. We can follow our dreams without anyone else`s consent. We can take our decisions without become pressurized. We can live our lives as we want. Only you need to take care of I,ME & MYSELF that means your self esteem.

                

   “Well Behaved Women Rarely Create History.” – Eleanor Roosevelt

I read this quote somewhere, and I felt something tighten in my heart… I was getting upset towards myself because I realized that I am worthless, I tried to find out my existence but only I found a woman who is wearing all those qualities mentioned above… Who am I?

It was the worst day of my life but I want to make my remaining life better than earlier, so I decided to write a dairy in which I wrote my wish list, my likes/dislikes, expectations, future plans and so many things which I want to do in my life. Also I tried to follow my own dreams. It doesn’t mean that I ignored my family only I changed my ways little. And I get unbelievable interventions in my life.

Dear ladies, we are not talking about to know your favorite color, movie,food or such a little things, it’s the big stuff we are talking about. Find out your passion, your dreams, your strengths, weakness, your desires, your tolerance & limitations find yourself among you. You know what; the person who tries to make others happy is the person who suffers more. I am not telling you to let others go to the hell, only I am trying to tell you about know yourself, know your self esteem. 

It is perfectly alright to follow your heart sayings & your own protocols. So trust my words & do it from now onwards… No one can do it for you…

Stay Happy.. Stay Blessed… 

Dear Daughter

I want you to be alike me,

But be stronger than me; so no one can break your heart…

I want you to be alike me,

But be smarter than me; so no one can cheat you…

I want you to be alike me,

But be more determined; so you can discover more about something..

I want you to be alike me,

But be less compassionate; so no one can take your disadvantage..

I want you to be alike me,

But be uncompromising; so no one can bend you as per his/her ways…

I want you to be alike me,

But be outspoken; so you never get hurt…

I want you to be alike me,

But be a fighter ; so you would never give up..

I want you to be alike me,

But be self made ; so you would win the world on your own ways…

I want you to be alike me my dear Daughter,

But be more & more than me; so you would never have any grumble in you life….

MY PUBLISHED POETRY : http://penningblog.com/my-dear-daughter/

Be alike me

The World Will Adjust

Being self dependent is too difficult but it is an essential quality for every woman who don’t want someone to treat her like a slave before or after marriage. In India, it has been considered that females are for organising home & take care of their kids while males are for working outside & earn money. But the fact is that who have this MONEY is the powerful person so automatically the males became so powerful & dominant over their ladies. However, in our societies most of the families belong to middle class. They tells their daughters that you are inferior to your husband and you will have to learn how to adjust with the world. This is exactly what all conservative families do. But still some families/ parents are there who makes their daughters self dependent so that they will not have to adjust with the world and so they can live their lives at their own rules.

Every woman has some talents, abilities & ideas from which we can be financially independent. Only you need to focus on that and move ahead to become self dependent. Because the world values those who have the MONEY.

If you have ability to do something for yourself, Do It…

If you want your family, In Laws, Husband to treat you like a Queen, Do It..

Bollywood Actress Priyanka Chopra told some lines in an interview which is shared below…

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Stay Happy.. Stay Blessed..